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The Leaving Lexicon Project

by Syrah Linsley September 12, 2024

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I'm Syrah — also go by "Sy"—a solitude advocate, abuse leaver, and literary nonfiction writer waking at 4:00am to write in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I earned an MFA from the Bennington Writing Seminars where I drafted my first manuscript, a memoir: The Inner Elsewhere. For more, please see the About page and social media below. For my alter ego, please see FRUITLAUREATE.COM / @fruitlaureate

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That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

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That lightning-esque movement after 1am though

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Still makes me smile/cry ⤵️
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I eventually found out that, during my first year free from my ex, he’d been trying to turn everyone against me—family, coworkers, church, anyone, whether in person or through emails/voicemails—by painting me as a heartless person for leaving him. (I had moved out of town and wasn’t around to list all the reasons I’d left him.)

His efforts backfired. They told me they weren’t buying it. Some found his anger telling, and some told him he needed to work on himself.

One woman who didn’t know me, but heard him talk about me, was reportedly rooting for me and glad I left, especially since she’d witnessed the way he mistreated women in general. Bless those who listen to us before we even get the chance to speak.

Unfortunately, my story is common. Abusive partners are often loudest after the breakup—as a preemptive effort, maybe afraid of being found out—whereas the escapee is more likely to leave quietly and might take years to find the courage to tell anyone about the abuse, even trying to protect what reputation their abuser might have had.

I didn’t have time to cause a scene, nor the energy or bitterness. I was too busy trying to find my way back to peace.
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#womenhelpingwomen #smearcampaign #isolation #healingfromabuse #foryou

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Still makes me smile/cry ⤵️ . . . I eventually found out that, during my first year free from my ex, he’d been trying to turn everyone against me—family, coworkers, church, anyone, whether in person or through emails/voicemails—by painting me as a heartless person for leaving him. (I had moved out of town and wasn’t around to list all the reasons I’d left him.) His efforts backfired. They told me they weren’t buying it. Some found his anger telling, and some told him he needed to work on himself. One woman who didn’t know me, but heard him talk about me, was reportedly rooting for me and glad I left, especially since she’d witnessed the way he mistreated women in general. Bless those who listen to us before we even get the chance to speak. Unfortunately, my story is common. Abusive partners are often loudest after the breakup—as a preemptive effort, maybe afraid of being found out—whereas the escapee is more likely to leave quietly and might take years to find the courage to tell anyone about the abuse, even trying to protect what reputation their abuser might have had. I didn’t have time to cause a scene, nor the energy or bitterness. I was too busy trying to find my way back to peace. . . . . #womenhelpingwomen #smearcampaign #isolation #healingfromabuse #foryou

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Dumb reason 73 why men abuse women?

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#toxicmasculinity #toxicrelationships #domesticviolenceawareness #foryou

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Dumb reason 73 why men abuse women? . . . . . . . #toxicmasculinity #toxicrelationships #domesticviolenceawareness #foryou

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Dismantling all we’ve been told. Brb. 👷‍♀️
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#relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #happilyunmarried #foryoupage

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Dismantling all we’ve been told. Brb. 👷‍♀️ . . . . . #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #happilyunmarried #foryoupage

3 weeks ago

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Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping?

Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details.
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#dreams #vividdream

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Is the unexamined sleep even worth sleeping? Well, yes. But still. Swipe for excerpts, 🔗 for details. . . . . . #dreams #vividdream

3 weeks ago

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🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

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🔗 Solitude advocacy wasn’t a phrase, so I fixed that.

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Homeschool dream: A Locker of One’s Own 🔐
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#homeschool #homeschooler #foryou

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Homeschool dream: A Locker of One’s Own 🔐 . . . . #homeschool #homeschooler #foryou

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Submittable September is upon us 🍂
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#submittable #litmag #literarymagazine

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Submittable September is upon us 🍂 . . . . . #submittable #litmag #literarymagazine

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Duplex, please (but make it affordable 🏠)

#introvert #introvertproblems #foryou

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Duplex, please (but make it affordable 🏠) #introvert #introvertproblems #foryou

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